Wednesday, April 23, 2014

#2524 The Perfect White Tee

If you're anything like me (or any other pedantic, obsessive type), you're probably also on the continual hunt for the perfect white tee shirt. I've written at length on the topic, and for a very long time I would wear nothing but the AS Colour Organic Tee, which started life a little ecru, but after 25 or so washes bleached out to the perfect shade of almost-see-through white. Good things take time. But AS Colour is in New Zealand, and I'm not, so after three years of washing and wearing and washing and wearing the same three tee shirts, it came time to replace them, and thus the search began for a home-front hero. And I found it. The company is named Alternative Apparel, and the tee shirt is called the Heathered Crewneck. It's actually a polyester/cotton/rayon blend, which I'd usually be against, but this thing is the softest, thinnest, most comfortable tee shirt I've ever worn. No idea as of yet to how it holds out after being beaten to death by my friendly neighbourhood laundromat, but pre-wash it's the best. And as a bonus, the grey marl version (below) is just as good.

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

#2523 Good Question — How Do I Talk My BF/GF Out Of Wanting An Open Relationship + More!

Photo: Tommy Ton

Anon asks: Hey Isaac, what are your thoughts on open relationships? My boyfriend has asked if I'd consider an open relationship and I can set the ground rules. It's pretty common for gay couples like us to have open relationships, but not sure if it sits well with me.

I'm probably the wrong person to ask because I'm about as conservative as they come with regards to this stuff, but it seems like you've answered it yourself already. I don't care if you're gay or straight, if one of the members of the relationship wants to sleep with other people and the other feels iffy about it, I can promise you right now that it will all end in tears. It's entirely normal and rational and sane to not want your boyfriend to have sex with other people, so tell him you're not into it. If he presses the issue, you may as well end things, because that's what you're going to wish you'd done when six months down the track he's telling you all about the guy he banged in the bathroom at the local 7-Eleven — or worse, sneaking around behind your back. Don't ever compromise your personal values for somebody else — it's a recipe for disaster.

Saturday, April 19, 2014

#2522 Isaac Likes Soho Grand — Party Tonight!

Get ye to Soho Grand tonight at 10:00pm if you like fun. Steven Rojas and I will be dishing it out with gay abandon. Gay abandon! With '90s r’n’b + Drake + 2Chainz + Justin Bieber by DJ Amrit Sidhu, and dance floor twerking by me. Don't stop get it get it!


Friday, April 18, 2014

#2521 Good Question — Why Did My Ex Girlfriend Shack Up With A New Dude The Moment We Broke Up?

Bill Murray as Steve Zissou.

Anon asks: My girlfriend and I were together for a long time, and things weren't the best, but I still wanted to stay in the relationship. She broke up with me saying she needed to be alone, and booked flights to move overseas because she said she needed a change of scene. She's leaving in a month, and I found out she started dating another guy pretty much straight after we broke up, despite specifically telling me that she wanted to be alone. According to our friends it's not a serious relationship and she's still moving overseas, but why did she lie to me? I don't know how she could do this.

Oh mate, that's a horrible situation. I'm sorry. There's no kind way of answering this question, so I'm just going to be real. Your ex-girlfriend made the difficult decision to end the relationship, and decided that she needed a complete life change. So she booked a flight to move overseas — also a difficult decision — and then shacked up with a new dude. Did she lie to you? Yes, and no. When she said she needed to be alone, I imagine she meant that she needed to not be in your relationship anymore. If the new guy that she's seeing is nothing serious, then she might simply be using him as a distraction to help her move forward with her life (a lot of people believe that the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else — I'm not one of them, but it sounds like she might be).

Thursday, April 17, 2014

#2520 Lorde, Pharrell, Outkast, and Hitchhiking: Highlights from Coachella 2014

Lorde onstage at Coachella 2014. Photo: Reuters

I inherited an odd personality trait from my late grandfather, Jack Hindin: I have a terrible habit of expecting the worst from every trip I take, to the point where I build up this giant ball of resistance that crushes any bit of excitement I might have, curse the people who talked me into going, try to cancel, and then of course, by the time I arrive and get settled in and start doing whatever it is that I'm doing, I have the time of my life. The same was true before I flew out to Palm Springs on Friday morning, and, as per usual, it was fun and games all round. Below, the highlights from my first ever Coachella, and, in fact, the first music festival I've been to since the Big Day out in 2002.