Thursday, August 28, 2014

#2596 How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work?

The view of Manhattan from Kent Ave (where I used to live). Photo: HawkClaw

Anon asks: Hi Isaac, Greetings from SoCal! I was wondering if you've ever been involved in a long distance relationship, and if you could offer any advice at all about it. Thanks for all your help!!

What's good, Cali? I've been in a couple of long distance relationships over the past decade, and they all began the same way — I'd meet a girl while I was travelling (or who was travelling herself), I'd get obsessed, then we'd stay in touch for a really really long time until we were both in the same place again, and then we'd officially be together. It's definitely not the easiest way to start a relationship, and getting to know someone online as opposed to in real life has its fair share of challenges — mainly that you only get to see a tiny snapshot of the person's life before you're physically together, and when you are, tons of unexpected personality quirks can suddenly show up that you weren't initially aware of (and that obviously goes both ways).

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

#2595 Casually Skating In Hermés


Cue the humble brag: It's not too often that luxury companies hit me up for my address to send me gifts, but a couple of weeks ago I got an email from Hermés about a new app they've launched named Tie Break, which is basically a quirky mobile menswear world filled with educational tidbits like how-to-tie the common tie and scarf knots; entertainment like old-school computer games with an Hermés spin and a video of a Chinese guy singing a love song while he ties his bow tie; and e-commerce where you can flick through all the season's tie options and purchase them through the app. It's a good time. In other news, did you know I skated for 12 years and broke my arm six or seven times doing so as a teenager? True story.

Monday, August 25, 2014

#2594 The Jimmy "Cobra" Carbonetti Q&A

Jimmy "Cobra" Carbonetti. Photo: iO Tillett Wright

At the tender age of 28, Jimmy "Cobra" Carbonetti has undertaken more than his fair share of pursuits. First up, he's the guitar player for the successful New York-based indie-pop band Caveman, which formed in 2010, and has toured the United States multiple times. Second, he's the former owner of Cobra Guitars, which proudly stood next to the Hell's Angels headquarters in the East Village for the better part of two years, and which he started with a friend when he was just 23. And finally, he's a luthier, which means he crafts and sells his own custom, handmade guitars out of his Lower East Side workshop. Pun-lovers might say he has a disproportionately high amount of strings to his bow, but I would never deign to make such an easy quip. I sat down with Jimmy over the weekend to talk about dabbling with Guns N' Roses as an eight year old; how everything wasn't necessarily cooler in New York 10 years ago; and who he'd most like to make a guitar for. But first, this question from last week's interviewee, Joseph Grazi:

Thursday, August 21, 2014

#2593 How To Tell A Guy You're Not Ready For Sex

Matt Damon, Jude Law, and Gwyneth Paltrow in The Talented Mr Ripley*.

Anon asks: Hey Isaac, so my boyfriend and I are going away together this weekend. It's our first time away together, so first time sleeping together. We have only been together for a month. We haven't talked about the whole sex deal yet, but I personally know that I'm not ready for it. I'm not sure what he expects. Do I talk to him about this before we go away? Or during? What if he wants it and I don't, etc? How do I escape that awkward tension when it arises? Your help would be much appreciated!

Hey gidday mate. This would be much easier to answer if I knew how old you were, but I'm going to assume you're old enough to be legally getting intimate and to be going on holiday with your boyfriend. (If you're not, don't do either, por favor.) Okay, so: If this guy is your actual boyfriend as opposed to some dude you're just getting to know, you should be able to have a conversation with him about what both of your expectations are with regards to sex.

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

#2592 Denim Disrupted By True Religion


It's hard to believe that up until about 18 months ago, I had almost entirely sworn off jeans. I wore khakis day in and day out, and that was that. I was never going to wear denim ever again. Ever. Until I did, and here we are today. My latest acquisition is this pair of Kurts by True Religion from the brand's new Core Fits range. It's a sleeker, lower profile option than what you might expect from the label (which I've always associated with heavy, light-coloured stitching and those back pocket flaps) — the branding is limited to the horseshoe stitching on the back pockets, and the wash is indigo with a tone-on-tone overdye detail. Kurt is one of the skinniest fits TR is offering, but they're definitely not spray-on tight, there's still room in the leg to move, and enough space to do a peg-roll at the hem, which is my current go-to with every pair of pants I own.